Having your cake and eating it too is possible in this day and age even though many may still stick to the old adage that it’s impossible to do both. What this means is that you can, indeed, have all of the things of a happy marriage — wife, kids, home etc. — while also still having a little bit of fun in your life as long as it’s aimed in productive directions.
As an example, think back to when you were a decent musician, fairly skilled at playing the guitar. You may have even had a nice gig going in terms of a band when you met the lady of your dreams and gave it all up. It’s possible, though, to get a little of it back as long as you address the needs of your family first. Once you do that, feel free to pull out the old Ibanez electric guitar and jam on occasion with some friends.
Keep in mind an important word when it comes to all of the above; priorities. You’ve got to have them if you hope to lead a good life made up of many positive aspects that marries just a bit of what you once had in your old life with the far greater rewards you’re gaining in your new life. This means making a plan and sticking with it by figuring out what’s important and what’s not so important and then taking care of both in their own order.
Maybe you and your wife, for example, have welcomed a new baby into the world. That’s a fantastic occurrence, everybody would say, but how do you make sure you take care of the needs of the baby and your wife while also addressing your need to head out to the wilderness and photograph some of that beauty before it disappears? Well, you and the wife need only put the baby in something like an Eddie Bauer convertible baby seat and go together.
This isn’t to say that your significant other — whoever he or she may be — needs to share all of your personal passions 100% of the time but it is to say that having a spouse or significant other who is interested in what your enthusiasms are can be a good thing. For your part, you might want to consider addressing the needs of the home to take care of the family, such as hooking up a portable space heater and cleaning out the garage.
There’s really nothing all that difficult to managing a life that is becoming more full as many of the better things in life are brought into it. This means the love of a family, first of all, and also the personal growth that comes from that family and the love they give. That alone may be the best reason of all to begin looking at planning for many of the good things.
Having your cake and eating it too needn’t be all that difficult, especially these days when there are so many tools that exist for helping one plan out his or her life right down to the color of socks to wear on any given day two years from now. There are plenty of fine ways one can go about keeping just a bit of one’s own life even in the face of the new, and better, life that can come from family and marriage.
